One thing that's scary to talk about or think about is the idea of someone touching your kids inappropriately, but it's a good thing to be aware of - especially since most inappropriate touching comes from people kids know well, not strangers. The chair of the AAP Committee on Child Abuse and Neglect gives some practical tips to help your child be aware, without scaring them off from all touch.
- Use appropriate terms for private parts so that your child isn't afraid to use them appropriately, and make sure they know where it's not okay to be touched by anyone (with the exception of medical personnel when a parent is there, and other caregivers to help with wiping after using bathroom).
- Let your child know that adults don't tell kids to keep secrets from their parents. A sexual predator may try to tell kids that it's a secret because they'll get in trouble, or because the predator will hurt mom and dad - make sure they know that this is a lie if they ever hear it.
- Take your child seriously if he or she tells you they were a victim of inappropriate touching, even if you know and trust the adult (or older child) involved.
- Learn what's normal. Some exploration of one's own genitals is within normal developmental guidelines, but if there is a sudden burst of preoccupation, talk to a pediatrician or other professional.
- Don't force touch. It may be uncomfortable to tell relatives that your kids don't want a hug today, but it will teach the child that his or her body deserves respect too and he or she has the right to refuse touching.
For more information, visit these articles from HealthyChild.org (an AAP site):
Talking to Your Young Child About Sex
Sexual Abuse
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