Parenting Pointers: How to Make Bedtime a Positive Time

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Sleep is a critical element of proper growth, brain function, and mental stability for all people, especially children. In fact, most children require between 10 and 14 hours of sleep per day, depending on the child's age and individual needs. 

Despite the physical need for sleep, children often resist going to sleep, and getting your child in bed can be tiresome and frustrating. Here are some tips on how to get your child to go to (and stay in) bed: 

Set up a Bedtime Routine

One of the most important things that you can do for your kids is to establish a consistent bedtime routine. Try not to vary their bedtime depending on the day. You should also limit their stimulating activities at night: do not let them exercise, watch TV, or spend time on the computer for at least one hour before they go to bed. 

Get your child in a pattern of doing things to prepare them for bed. If bedtime is at 8 PM, bathe them at 7, put them in their pajamas, get them a bedtime snack or glass of water, read them a book, and then have them in bed by 8. Do this every night, and your child will begin to associate these bedtime activities with going to sleep. 

Have Consequences and Rewards

When it comes to punishing or rewarding your child for going to bed and sleeping through the night, you should focus more on positive reinforcement. For example, you can set up a sticker chart, where a certain number of stickers buys a "prize" for your child, or you can have morning surprises or treats for the nights your child stays in bed. Also, make sure that you use positive language, such as "Great job!" or "I'm so proud of you, you're growing up!" rather than negative words. 

If your child cries during bedtime or won't stay in their bed, go into their room in intervals; make sure you're not engaging in any arguments and stick to positive language. For example, tell your child in a calm voice that it's time for bed, that everything's alright, and that they're safe and you'll be there in the morning when they wake up. You don't want to punish or argue with your child in their bedroom, as they may possibly develop a negative association with the bedroom and become uncomfortable going to bed. 

Have Patience

Getting your child go to bed can be frustrating, and you may be tempted to give up or get angry. If you're trying to get your child to go to sleep earlier than their current bedtime, try fading the bedtime in increments of 15 minutes at a time. For example, if your child currently won't fall asleep until 10:30, and you want them to fall asleep at 9:30, put them down at 10:15 for a couple nights, then 10:00, then 9:45, and so on. It may be challenging at first, but if you stay calm and firm, it'll be well worth the struggle!

This article was written by Ashlyn Cooper, mommy and blogger.  She got tired of all the bedtime drama and is happy to have a better bedtime routine.  If it’s not your kids keeping you up at night, then click here to find out why what’s keeping you awake.