Summer
is synonymous with freedom, adventure and more often than parents would
like to believe, blooming romances. Dating customs have changed since
most parents were teens and tweens. The most striking difference is the
young age at which children now begin dating: on average, twelve and a
half for girls, and thirteen and a half for boys. Although parents might
not be ready for their children to date, a parent’s ability to control
that is very limited.
Often
times, you might not recognize it as dating per se, as the recent
dating trend among early adolescents often consists of group dates.
Although this might put a parent’s mind at ease, they are still exposed
to relationship dynamics that parents need to help them understand.
Did you know?
- 72 percent of tweens say boyfriend/girlfriend relationships begin at age 14 or younger;
- 37 percent of 11 to 12-year-olds say they have been in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship;
- 20 percent of tweens say that their parents know little or nothing about tweens' dating;
- Six percent of parents admit to knowing little or nothing about tweens' dating.
With
recent findings determining that one in three 14-year-olds has
experienced physical, sexual or psychological abuse within a dating
relationship, rising to 44 percent by the time American young people
graduate from college, teen dating violence (TDV) is a topic that
parents must discuss with their children, especially as the freedoms of
summer unleashes. Unfortunately, many parents neglect to have this
conversation because they do not believe that TDV is a widespread
problem – or that it does not apply to their children.
“I
knew to talk with Jen about alcohol, drugs, sex and all those other
parenting talks, but I never knew I had to teach her about dating
violence,” said Drew Crecente, whose 18-year-old daughter was murdered
by her ex-boyfriend. “I did not realize that it was such a pervasive
issue at such a young age.”
The problem:
- Only 51 percent of tweens claim to know the warning signs of an abusive relationships;
- 81 percent of parents do not realize, or do not appreciate, that teen dating violence is a problem.
With
parents generally unaware of their children dating, and kids uninformed
on what constitutes a healthy relationship, then we certainly have a
serious problem.
Parents
need to understand what teens and tweens are facing and how to identify
unhealthy relationships. Although some aspects of dating life have
changed since most parents dated (e.g. social media), there are many
things which haven't changed which parents didn't necessarily realize
were unhealthy. In addition, children need to learn how to identify
unhealthy relations, especially if their parents own relationships don’t
necessarily demonstrate healthy relationship behaviors. .
Finding a solution:
Recognizing
the importance of having this discussion is an important first step and
Jennifer Ann’s Group has been producing video games about teen dating
violence to support these discussions since 2008. All of their digital
games are free, engaging and effective; the ideal solution for parents
ready to tackle this important topic with their adolescents. Their video
games are available at https://JAGga.me.
The non-profit’s research shows that people who play their games change
their attitudes about unhealthy relationship behavior in only 30
minutes. No other program or approach has proven to be as effective.
“There
is no excuse for parents to not explore these free games further,”
explains Crecente. “Not only will they learn more about the complex
reality of relationship behaviors, but they will also empower their kids
to expect more from their dating partners and from themselves - even if
they are not yet dating.”
Source: Liz Claiborne, Teen Research Unlimited Survey, released July 2008
About Jennifer Ann’s Group
Jennifer Ann’s Group is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) organization preventing teen dating violence through awareness, education, and advocacy. The organization has been instrumental in the passing of legislation mandating teen dating violence awareness in schools and has distributed over a half-million free educational materials to schools, churches, and other organizations throughout the U.S. and U.K. at no cost to the recipients. For more information, visit http://jenniferann.org.
Jennifer Ann’s Group is a non-profit, 501(c)(3) organization preventing teen dating violence through awareness, education, and advocacy. The organization has been instrumental in the passing of legislation mandating teen dating violence awareness in schools and has distributed over a half-million free educational materials to schools, churches, and other organizations throughout the U.S. and U.K. at no cost to the recipients. For more information, visit http://jenniferann.org.
On
February 15, 2006, Jennifer Ann Crecente, a high school senior, was
murdered by her ex-boyfriend. Jennifer was an honor roll student in high
school, a camp counselor, a hospital volunteer, and participated in
community theatre with her dad. Jennifer Ann’s Group is run by her
father.
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