Whether
you work from home or go to an office daily; you are always working for
someone else. Your services, talents, skills and knowledge are being
exchanged for money and that means meeting expectations. It also means
dealing with daily triggers that frustrate us. According to Dr. Sanam
Hafeez, these triggers build up stress which may negatively impact our
personal relationships physical health. Dr. Hafeez, a
NYC based licensed clinical neuropsychologist, teaching faculty member
at the prestigious Columbia University Teacher’s College and the founder
and Clinical Director of Comprehensive Consultation Psychological
Services, offers 7 work related anxiety triggers with tips on what we can do to deal with them.
1. Fear Based Bosses
Bosses
who focus on possibilities and solutions inspire creativity and
collaboration. Fear-based bosses aren’t leaders they are energy
drainers. They have quick tempers, focus on problems, complain and
threaten. According to Dr. Hafeez people make the mistake of remaining
in a job for the wrong reasons. “Being spoken to harshly every day is no
way to live. It’s abusive and causes anxiety. My advice, file a
complaint with human resources and resign. Your well-being matters first
and most.”
2. Co-Worker Cliques
Some
work cultures include gossip, passive aggressiveness, undercutting,
sabotage, and verbal jabs that would rival any high school clique. “If
your work is solid, align with others who are focused and keep your eye
on the prize. You have a job to do and your focus will be thrown off by
unnecessary cattiness. When you hear a group of co-workers gossiping,
politely excuse yourself,” advises Dr. Hafeez.
3. Technology Glitches
We’ve
all had instances where we want to throw our computers out the window,
stomp on our cell phones and kick a vending machine after it gobbles up
our last 2 singles. “Technology is what led to a higher standard for
speed and efficiency. When we can’t get what we want in .005 seconds we
get agitated. It’s conditioning,” she explains. “Centering is a great
technique that helps delay reaction time to stressors. Before pounding
on the copy machine, step back count to 5, breathe and pivot to fixing
whatever may be wrong or finding someone who can assist.”
4. Presenting
You
can be the most articulate, outgoing person and still have anxiety when
it comes to presenting to a group. It is common for people to
experience insomnia, nausea and tension headaches leading up to an
important presentation. Preparation is key. “Allow ample time to gather
key points and mentally rehearse your presentation while doing another
unrelated activity such as cooking, cleaning, walking or running, to
release stress and remain present suggests Dr. Hafeez.”
5. Your Commute
“Once
you exceed 30 minutes one-way, your happiness level drops and your
stress level rises,” says Dr. Hafeez. A coping mechanism she suggests is
to use the commute as a time to learn. If driving, tune off the
negative news talk radio and opt for interesting podcasts or audio
books. If stuck on a bus or train, reading a book, watching a show on
the iPad, or getting a head start on email are also ways to make the
time fly.
6. Business Travel
Rushing
for airplanes and dealing with weather delays and over-booked flights
not to mention navigating an unfamiliar place will stress anyone out.
“Preparation and a solid backup plan is a great way to ease pre-business
travel stress. While face-to-face meetings may be optimal, skipping a
flight and opting for a video conference may be a less stressful
option.”
7. Quotas and Commissions
While
most workers love the self-determined earning potential of a
commission-paid job, they still find it stressful when they look at the
numbers and fear coming up short. “Anxiety is cause by excessive worry
about future events you believe you cannot control, explains Dr.
Hafeez.” It may sound harsh but setting higher targets can be helpful.
When you raise the bar at making 50 sales calls instead of coasting by
with the usual 20, you’ll most likely complete 30 and will feel
accomplished. “Acknowledge daily wins and break down the effort into
smaller chunks of time so you focus on what’s in front of you,” she
advises.
About the Doctor:
Dr. Sanam Hafeez PsyD is
a NYC based licensed clinical neuropsychologist, teaching faculty
member at the prestigious Columbia University Teacher’s College and the
founder and Clinical Director of Comprehensive Consultation
Psychological Services, P.C. a neuropsychological, developmental and
educational center in Manhattan and Queens.
Dr.
Hafeez masterfully applies her years of experience connecting
psychological implications to address some of today’s common issues such
as body image, social media addiction, relationships, workplace stress,
parenting and psychopathology (bipolar, schizophrenia, depression,
anxiety, etc…). In addition, Dr. Hafeez works with individuals who
suffer from post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), learning
disabilities, attention and memory problems, and abuse. Dr. Hafeez often
shares her credible expertise to various news outlets in New York City
and frequently appears on CNN and Dr.Oz.
Connect with her via twitter @comprehendMind or www .comprehendthemind.com
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