It’s the February and the month of love! Relationship Expert and Psychologist, Dr. Ramani Durvasula knows how difficult it can be to keep that spark alive, especially with the busyness of life. Between work, life, family responsibilities….the passion once felt for a partner can fizzle out if you’re not intentional about keeping your love life a little spicy!
“Part of a healthy and loving relationship is being intentional with your partner.” said Dr. Ramani, relationship expert at TONE Networks. “There is something inherently romantic in knowing that your partner is taking time out of their hectic schedule to plan something, big or small, to let you know they love you and are thinking about you.”
Want to fan that spark into a wildfire of passion this month and through the year? Check out these seven tips on how to keep the romance alive in your relationship.
- Write Love Letters. Go to that funny building called the post office. Buy some stamps and start sending old fashioned love letters. We are so accustomed to getting junk, scary letters from the IRS and grocery flyers in our mail box. That handwritten, old school love letter can be an eye opener to your loved one.
- Make their lunch. Remember when you were a kid and mom or dad would put a note in your lunch box? Remember how special you felt? Pack your loves lunch and stick a love note in it! It can be a simple “I love you!” Or something a little bit spicy!
- Make Hotel Dates! Tell your partner you are going out to dinner; instead take them to a local hotel for another kind of sustenance. (You can order room service too!)
- Do That Annoying Task. Do that nagging errand they need done, cleaning their car, putting in a closet organizer, installing some shelves in a garage, cleaning the house. Meeting the practical needs of your love can really show how deeply you are committed to their happiness.
- Unplug From Technology. That’s right, turn off ALL your gadgets and gizmos! Enjoy a date night or a night in by being absolutely unplugged. Talk, share your dreams and desires, and listen to each other without the interruptions of the outside world.
- Do Something Your Partner Likes. Watch a football game, go to a foreign film festival, plant in the garden, go shopping to their favorite store. BUT DO IT WITH HAPPINESS, share it that activity that they love. Don't be scornful of their idea of fun or their personal likes, sharing these activities is a wonderful gift to them, particularly when you do it with pleasure – you might even find yourself enjoying a new activity!
- Have routines! Develop a “goodbye I love you” routine, a text sign off, even a random call you make during the day to tell that person you love him or her.
About TONE Networks
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About Dr. Ramani Durvasula
Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a licensed clinical psychologist and Relationship Expert at TONE Networks, speaks on a wide variety of topics helping people reach their full potential in their relationships, jobs, and family, but most of all, themselves. The author of Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving a Relationship With a Narcissist, she is an expert on narcissism, and how it has changed the American landscape, particularly in the areas of health, the workplace and relationships. Dr. Ramani is also the author of You Are WHY You Eat, and is currently at work on a new book about staying sane in our era of narcissism and entitlement.
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