No marriage or relationship is perfect, but if your spouse is physically abusive, or becomes physically aggressive, such as getting too close and violating your personal space while screaming, it’s time to think about leaving. Every woman should prepare a to-go bag with essential things she’ll need in case she needs to get out quickly.
Rosemary Lombardy, financial advisor, candid abuse survivor and author of Breaking Bonds: How to Divorce an Abuser and Heal - A Survival Guide [February 8, 2019], has prepared a list of items to pack in a to-go bag.
- Emergency cash
- Your driver’s license,
- Your credit cards
- Your checkbooks
- A list of your assets and debts
- A set of clothes for you and the children
- Diapers and a few toys if you have young children
- Court papers, such as a temporary restraining order, if you have one
- Your passport
- Birth certificates
- Marriage certificate and pre-nuptial agreement, if any
- Social security cards
- Medical and immunization records
- Medicines
- Insurance information
- Welfare documents
- Immigration papers
- Other legal documents
- A list of important phone numbers, such as friends, relatives, doctors, and schools
- Information on local resources, including your local battered women’s shelter
- Journal of any verbal or physical abuse recording dates, threats, and events-start this now if you haven’t already!
“Put your go-bag in a very safe place or give it to someone you trust to hold it for you,” suggests Lombardy. “Keep the driver’s door to your car unlocked in case you need to escape in a hurry. Make sure you have gas in the tank and keep a spare key hidden inside your car in case you don’t have time to grab your key chain before leaving—or in case your husband takes away your keys. When you leave, grab jewelry, pictures, and other items of value if you have time, but leave them behind if staying longer jeopardizes your safety or that of your children.”
About Rosemary Lombardy
Rosemary Lombardy is a financial advisor with over 35 years of experience. Although her professional expertise is in financial matters, her perspective on marital abuse, divorce, and recovery is deeply heartfelt and holistic. She draws on decades of personal experience, as well as the experiences of others who have gone through similar situations, to help inform abused women so that they will become empowered to leave their abusers and begin to heal.
Her former background in law, as well as being both a Catholic who has studied the Kabbalah and a Reiki master, have enabled her to provide practical guidance and spiritual techniques that women can use when they most need them. Her intention with Breaking Bonds is to offer a comprehensive plan to foster self-awareness, self-responsibility, empowerment, and critical thinking so that women can break the cycle of abuse in their families and truly heal to transform their lives.
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