“Many women never tell anyone that they are being abused because they are embarrassed and ashamed or fearful of repercussions,” says candid abuse survivor and author Rosemary Lombardy. “It is not always possible to know, but there are telltale signs that may indicate that abuse is going on.”
Lombardy is author of the new book, Breaking Bonds: How to Divorce an Abuser and Heal - A Survival Guide [February 8, 2019]. She has advice for women to end any relationship successfully – mentally and financially. Her goal is to offer a comprehensive plan to foster self-awareness, self-responsibility, empowerment, and critical thinking so that women can break the cycle of abuse and truly heal to transform their lives.
She is sharing 5 signs your loved one is in an abusive relationship.
5 Signs Your Loved One is in an Abusive Relationship
- Changed behavior or demeanor. This person used to be happy, friendly, and confident, but is now apathetic, withdrawn, anxious, jumpy, apologetic, secretive, or fearful. She exhibits low self-esteem, doesn’t trust her own judgment, or is depressed.
- Negative coping behavior. Excessive drinking, drug use, overeating, overconsumption of caffeine or sugar, or frequent shopping sprees are common coping mechanisms used by abuse victims.
- Excessive contact and control. Her abuser texts or calls her frequently when she is in the company of others to see what she is doing and who she is with, keeping her on a very short leash. She answers his every call or text.
- Isolating behavior. She no longer spends time with friends or family because of the controlling demands of her partner, who deliberately isolates her from needed support. She relents to please him and avoid conflict.
- Unexplained bruises or accidents. The victim covers up her bruises with makeup or clothing and will make up excuses if she is confronted with suspicions because she is afraid and mortified.
About Rosemary Lombardy:
Rosemary Lombardy is a financial advisor with over 35 years of experience. Although her professional expertise is in financial matters, her perspective on marital abuse, divorce, and recovery is deeply heartfelt and holistic. She draws on decades of personal experience, as well as the experiences of others who have gone through similar situations, to help inform abused women so that they will become empowered to leave their abusers and begin to heal.
Her former background in law, as well as being both a Catholic who has studied the Kabbalah and a Reiki master, have enabled her to provide practical guidance and spiritual techniques that women can use when they most need them. Her intention with Breaking Bonds is to offer a comprehensive plan to foster self-awareness, self-responsibility, empowerment, and critical thinking so that women can break the cycle of abuse in their families and truly heal to transform their lives.
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Breaking Bonds: How to Divorce an Abuser and Heal - A Survival Guide [February 8, 2019] by financial advisor and candid abuse survivor Rosemary Lombardy, provides a safe haven for women to refer to throughout the many phases of divorcing an abusive spouse. Pairing essential financial and legal information with practical self-care tools and healing techniques, through Breaking Bonds, Lombardy helps women to minimize stress and feel empowered as they deal effectively with their abuser.
Specific details provided throughout the book include:
- Financial and legal considerations—including things a lawyer or an accountant might overlook.
- What to pack in a go-to bag if you need to plan an escape.
- Life-changing – and, in some cases, life-saving – tips, such as to always back your car into the driveway and keep the driver’s door unlocked, with a hidden key, in case you need to escape in a hurry.
- Strategies to minimize the damage he will try to inflict both financially and emotionally, how to deal with trauma, and be confident in a better life ahead.
- Typical behaviors to expect from abusers and how to counteract them.
- Mistakes that she and others have made—and the potential ramifications— so the reader can avoid similar negative experiences.
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