By Stephanie Rino, Director of Curriculum and Learning (original post here)
Think about the last real conversation you had with your child’s teacher.
Not the quick hello at drop-off. Not the end-of-year report card. A genuine conversation in which a teacher shared not just what your child did that day, but how they think. What questions they asked. What they are working to understand. A conversation that made you feel like the people caring for your child truly know them.
If that kind of conversation is rare in your experience, you are not alone. In most early childhood settings, there is a clear line between home and school. The parent’s job is to deliver the child. The teacher’s job is to educate them. The two worlds run in parallel, but separate. Information flows mostly in one direction: from school to home, at scheduled intervals, in standardized formats.
The Reggio Emilia philosophy sees this differently.
In the Reggio Emilia approach, parents are not the audience for their child’s education. They are active participants in it. They are the child’s first teachers, their most constant observers, and an irreplaceable source of knowledge that no classroom educator can replicate. Parent partnership is not a nice addition to a quality early childhood program. It is a foundational principle, and it is one of the things that sets genuine Reggio Emilia approach preschools apart from programs that treat families as bystanders.
As Director of Curriculum and Learning at Little Sunshine’s Playhouse, this is a principle I return to again and again. It is the one that perhaps most requires us to challenge assumptions about what school is for, and who it belongs to.
What “Parents as Partners” Actually Means
The phrase “parent involvement” gets used a lot in early childhood education. But involvement can mean many things, and many of them are relatively passive, like returning a signed permission form.
Partnership in the Reggio Emilia sense is something different. It asks more. And it offers more.
In the Reggio Emilia philosophy, partnership with parents begins with a belief: that parents possess knowledge about their children that is not just useful, but essential, and it doesn’t require a formal education in early childhood education. They have watched their child move through the world from the very beginning. They know how their child responds to frustration, what lights them up, what they talk about at the dinner table, what fears they carry quietly, what questions they keep coming back to.
A Reggio Emilia educator does not assume that their months with a child give them a fuller picture than a parent’s years. Instead, they actively seek out what parents know. They invite parents into the documentation of their child’s learning. They share questions as well as answers. They treat the parent as a collaborator in understanding who this child is and what they need to thrive in the classroom.
What Parents Bring to the Classroom
One of the things that distinguishes a genuine Reggio Emilia partnership from more conventional models of family engagement is the recognition that parents bring real intellectual contributions to a child’s education, not just logistical support.
When a parent shares that their child has become obsessed with how bridges stay up, or that they cried on the way home because a caterpillar in the garden had died, that information shapes what a skilled educator does next. It ensures that what happens at school is connected to the child’s actual inner life, rather than a parallel track running alongside it.
Parents also bring cultural knowledge, family history, and community connection that can enrich classroom learning in ways no curriculum can manufacture. In a true Reggio Emilia environment, they are woven into the fabric of what learning looks like. This is one of the quiet markers that distinguish Reggio Emilia approach preschools from programs where family contributions stop at the classroom door.
At Little Sunshine’s Playhouse, we work to create genuine channels for this kind of contribution, because we know that the richest learning environments are the ones that draw on the knowledge of everyone in a child’s world.
How Partnership Benefits Children
It would be easy to frame parent partnership as primarily a benefit to adults, a way to keep families informed and engaged. But the deeper truth is that children are the ones who benefit most.
When a child sees the adults in their life communicating with genuine respect and warmth, when their teacher knows the things their parent has shared, and their parent understands what their teacher is working on with them, it creates a coherence in a child’s experience that matters enormously. The child does not have to hold two separate worlds.
Research on early childhood development consistently shows that children whose families are meaningfully engaged in their education demonstrate stronger social-emotional outcomes, greater confidence, and deeper engagement with learning.
What This Looks Like in Practice
For families who are new to Reggio Emilia environments, it can be helpful to understand what authentic parent partnership actually looks like in practice. It is not one gesture or one program. It is an orientation that shapes how educators communicate, how classrooms are designed, and how learning is documented and shared.
Some of the ways parent partnership comes to life in a Reggio Emilia preschool include:
- Regular, substantive communication about children’s learning, not just behavior reports or developmental checklists, but genuine sharing of what children are exploring, wondering, and discovering
- Invitations for parents to share observations from home that might inform classroom inquiry, and to see how those observations shape what educators do next
- Documentation displayed in ways that open conversation between families and teachers, rather than simply broadcasting information
- Family evenings or learning gatherings where parents can engage directly with the philosophy, the environment, and the educators who care for their children
- Opportunities for parents to contribute their own expertise or cultural traditions to ongoing classroom investigations
- Platforms like our LuvNotes app, which give families real-time glimpses into their child’s day and create openings for meaningful exchange
What all of these share is an underlying message: families, not just children, are welcome here. Parents are genuine members of the learning community. This is the kind of detail worth asking about when you are touring Reggio Emilia approach preschools and trying to understand what daily life actually looks like for families, not just children.
Why This Principle Matters, Especially Now
We live in a time when early childhood education is often discussed in terms of outcomes, benchmarks, and preparation. Parents are understandably anxious about whether their child is on track, and schools can fall into the habit of communicating through those metrics alone.
The Reggio Emilia commitment to parent partnership is a quiet but powerful pushback against that. It insists that a child’s education is not something that happens to them while their parents wait outside. It is something that unfolds within a web of relationships, and that web is strongest when parents are genuinely part of it.
It also insists on something that is easy to lose sight of in a culture that moves quickly: that parents are the experts on their own children. No standardized assessment, no developmental screening, no educator (however gifted) has access to the full, living knowledge that a parent carries. When a preschool program honors that knowledge and actively seeks it out, it is doing something more than good practice. It is doing something that is deeply respectful of families. This kind of genuine partnership is, in many ways, the clearest sign that you have found the best preschool for your child, not because of what is on a brochure, but because of how a program treats the people who know your child best.
At Little Sunshine’s Playhouse, we believe that the most meaningful thing we can offer a child is an environment in which every adult who cares about them is genuinely in conversation with one another. Where teachers know what parents know. Where parents understand what teachers are working toward. Where the child moves between home and school not as two separate worlds, but as one coherent, loving community. It is part of what makes us proud to be counted among the best preschool options families consider in our community.
That is what this principle means to us. And it is what we work toward every single day.
If this article sparked your interest, there’s so much more to explore. Our About page dives deeper into how exceptional early education can nurture a child’s natural curiosity, confidence, and love of learning. You can even experience this approach for yourself at one of our Reggio Emilia preschools and daycares near you. We’re glad you’re here. Let’s keep learning together.
Keep reading about the seven principles of Reggio Emilia!
(1) Children Are Active Participants in Their Learning
(2) Learning Thrives Through Collaboration
(3) Children are Natural Communicators
(4) The Classroom is the Third Teacher
(5) Teachers are Partners and Guides
(6) Documentation as Communication
(7) Parents as Partners in Learning
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