Parenting Pointers: Post-Baby Sex

7 Top Tips for Post Baby Sex (Guest Post)

Talk to your partner
It is good to discuss your feelings and concerns about having sex for the first time after having a baby. They will appreciate you helping them to understand what you do or do not want. Many men feel neglected or pushed out once the baby they helped create arrives and consumes their once attentive lovers every thought.
Take your time
There is no right time for you to reignite your love life, and you should not feel under any pressure to do so. You may have had a difficult labour and need to recover physically from the trauma of it before you can even consider sex. Most women prefer to wait at least until the normal bleeding has stopped before they feel like making love. It is all down to personal choice though, only you will be able to know when you are ready to jump back in the sack with your lover.
Try stimulating yourself alone
Your body will have changed a great deal during and after your pregnancy. Most women gain a few pounds and many will have had stitches of one type or another. If you are feeling less confident about your post baby body, it might be an idea to explore your new physique by yourself. Maybe even try using a non-penetrative, clitoral stimulating adult toy, like an egg vibrator to get you in the mood.
Use lots of lubricant
Whether you are on your own or with your partner, lubrication will help to make it a smoother ride. One of the main causes of vaginal dryness is hormonal changes, which can occur after childbirth, so it might be necessary to use it in order to prevent painful sex. However, even if this does not affect you, using a bit of lube can be quite sexy, driving your desire and heightening your sensuality.
Try something new
Sex during pregnancy can be an awkward affair, particularly in the latter stages, so you might have developed new techniques to get round the problem. It doesn’t have to stop there though. Why not use the break in your sex life to introduce more experimentation into your pre baby predictable ‘bed time’ routine. It will encourage you to explore new ways to enjoy one another and strengthen the bond you have as a couple.
Don’t have any expectations
There may be a few false starts in the beginning, if it is uncomfortable or you feel awkward. If you are used to reaching climax it might be frustrating if initially you are unable to orgasm. Don’t worry, it does not mean that you will never again experience the heady heights of sexual release. Practice makes perfect, and if you take your time, relax and don’t see sex without climax as a failure you will be able to enjoy the intimacy with you partner you once had.
Make sure the baby is settled
The biggest passion killer known to humanity is a crying baby. Ensuring that you are not interrupted will not be easy, especially if your baby is a light sleeper, but once you have established some form of routine with your baby’s sleeping you will know when a good time arises. Maybe you could even ask someone to watch the baby while you have some time alone with your partner. The only trick will be using the time to rekindle your old romance and not use the time to catch up on your sleep!