From Facebook, to Twitter, to Foursquare, social media sites are
everywhere and full of virtual land mines for our tweens and teens. Anything they say can, and may be used
against them, by a bully at school, a college admissions counselor, or a future
boss. There are numerous ways they're exposed
to the World, from harsh life lessons to predators and scam artists. It's important for parents to teach them how
to navigate social media safely.
Our mom used to say, "never put anything in writing that you
don't want published on the front page of the New York Times," and this
warning definitely applies to present-day social media. That photo of your teen doing something
exceptionally dumb can be used against them: by a schoolmate playing a prank, or
worse, school administrators; even the police.
A few tips:
1. Caution them not to post anything that could trace them back to
their location offline or allow a criminal to take advantage of them, like their
full name, social security number, address, or phone number.
2. Make sure their screen name does not contain any personal
information like email address or birth date.
3. Remind them that under no circumstances should they post
anything sexually-oriented about themselves or anyone else.
Just as we teach our kids to be polite members of society, there
are social ramifications to not using their manners online. It's really difficult to convey tone in text,
so be especially careful when you're joking.
"Please" and "thank you" (pls and ty if you're
texting) go a long way in electronic communications. They help the recipient feel that you're not
demanding when you make a request. Also,
teach them to avoid the "rant."
No one appreciates being yelled at in the real world, and using bold
fonts, lots of exclamation points or all caps is the Internet equivalent.
The best resource we've found for parents to help their kids stay
safe on Facebook is A Parents' Guide to Facebook (www.connectsafely.org/pdfs/fbparents.pdf). It's written by the
co-directors of ConnectSafely, a non-profit organization designed for kids,
parents and educators to join in a public discussion about online safety. It’s intended to help parents have more
meaningful discussions about Facebook, including how to best use it and its
built-in protections. For example, did
you know that Facebook has extra protections in place for users between the
ages of 13 and 18? That's one reason
it's important for your child to report her birth date correctly. In this pamphlet, you'll learn how to gain
greater control over your child's Facebook account without being too intrusive
into his privacy.
OnGuardOnline (www.OnGuardOnline.gov), managed by the Federal Trade
Commission in partnership with over a dozen government agencies, is literally a
treasure-trove of information. The OnGuard Online Blog has up-to-the-minute
articles on everything from preventing victimization by online scammers to
teaching your kids how to protect themselves online. Several videos are laugh-out-loud funny (under
the Video and Media tab), designed to engage kids with animation and humor
while teaching them about online safety.
Check out the hilarious one-minute videos about "phishing" (titled
“Phishy Home,” “Phishy Store” etc) about criminals trying to obtain personal
information to steal your identity.
Also, consider only using social networks that are meant for teens
and tweens, ones that offer a social network only meant for them. One of our favorites is http://www.everloop.com/ for ages under 13. Everloop.com
provides “A safer, online, social home base for kids
under 13. Everloop is a free place where kids can connect with friends, play
games, share pictures, send messages, discover new talents, learn and have fun.
Everloop’s state-of-the-art privacy protection and monitoring technology guard
young users against bullying, bad language and inappropriate sharing of
information. And we partner with leading innovators to provide child-focused
entertainment as well as top-shelf educational activities. Kids get to be in
the loop and parents get peace of mind.
If you think your tweens or teens may be getting themselves into
real trouble, trust your instincts. Our primary
recommendation is to talk to them first about their experiences. Encourage them to tell you if they feel
anxious, uncomfortable or threatened. We've
mentioned this product before, but if you feel like you're not getting the
whole store and have exhausted all other options, Spector Pro from SpectorSoft
(www.spectorsoft.com/products/) can be a useful
tool. Designed to document every
keystroke, website visited, email sent and received, chat and IM, and all their
social media activities, it runs in "ghost mode" so it's undetectable
by your child. One word of caution:
since it’s only installed on your home computer, it’s easily circumvented by
accessing the Internet from a mobile device or friend's computer.
Andrea Eldridge is CEO of Nerds On Call, which offers onsite computer & laptop repair to homeowners and small businesses. Based in Redding,
Calif., it has locations in five states. Contact Eldridge at www.callnerds.com/andrea.
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