Friday, October 4, 2013

Parenting Pointers: Creating a Calm Home Environment For Introverted Children

Introversion – the very word carries the stigma of myth and misunderstanding. Far from being a term that related to social awkwardness and aloof demeanors, introversion relates to a specific temperament that requires solitude in order to renew. This can be challenging in today’s noisy world, with families often running in many directions at once. Fortunately, there are a few things parents can do to help create an environment of calm for introverted children:

1.     Personal Space – Introverted children function best when they have their own space in which to renew each day. This can be a room, or part of a room – the key is to allow introverted children to personalize it. Let them decorate in a manner that is soothing to them. After all, they will be spending a lot of time in that environment. If your introverted child happens to be sharing a room with an extrovert – something very typical in most households – it is important that they come up with a way to alert each other to “alone” time. Introverted children need quality time in solitude every day: to read, to ponder, to dream, and to renew. By the same token, it is important that the extroverted children get opportunities for social connection in order to have their needs for renewal met.

2.     Peace in Routines – Introverts thrive when they can predict their world. Such predictability increases their feelings of safety, lending control when introverted children struggle with feeling connected to rest of the planet. Building routines into a typical day around things like homework time, bedtime, and mealtime often provides balance and a secure foundation to introverted children.  While such routines are vital in the household of the introvert, it is equally important to teach introverted children how to handle change by planning “change” into the household routine on occasion. As long as the household foundation is secure and routines are plentiful, introverted children can be taught to roll with life’s changes as easily as their extroverted counterparts.

3.     Practice Healthy Lifestyles – Everyone in the household benefits from proper eating, adequate sleep and exercise. This is particularly true for the introverted child. Making certain that introverts are well-rested, exercising moderately, and eating a protein-rich, balanced diet will ensure that they have appropriate energy to manage stress and function at their prime.

4.     Choose Your Battles Wisely – Introverted children can be most difficult when they are under large amounts of stress. A taxing schedule that includes too much social activity can take a toll on the most well-adjusted of introverts, resulting in increased frustration, short tempers, and emotional instability. The key at these times is to reduce the pressure on your child, adjust expectations, and build in some quiet time so your introverted child can regain his or her balance.  


Introverts often seem like an enigma, presenting as both shy and aloof, while also being deep thinking and compassionate. Providing a nurturing and calm foundation will help your child develop the strength needed to build on social skills, while also enhancing their unique gifts—creativity, innovation, and compassion.

Guest Post written by Christine Fonseca, author of Quiet Kids: Help Your Introverted Child Succeed in an Extroverted World.

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