A new novel, based on the true story of a truly modern woman, Pouline Middleton, proposes that it is time for a new model of dating for women — One Woman Three Men.
a divorce and then a relationship with a cheating man, Pouline
Middleton decided that trying to get all a woman's needs fulfilled by a
single man may no longer make sense in today's world. What she needed
and many other modern women may need to find are 3 men: one for
conversation, one for sex, and a handyman to do work around the house.
I actually have a friend who is in a relationship just like this. Her husband provides all of the physical and some of the emotional intimacy, but he is on the autism spectrum, and so she has another man in her life who acts as her emotional support, and a third man who is her spiritual advisor, a relationship she values greatly.
"I'm not against marriage, but the fact is, most
of the time, things go wrong because people have too many expectations
of each other and their expectations are not very concrete. With this
three-men model, everybody delivers only what they want to and agree to,
and it's a win-win situation,” says Middleton. When she first published
the book in Denmark, it became a bestseller and Middleton was
interviewed on every major radio and TV show.
I had a chance to review this book, and it was fun to read. I don't know that I would ever find myself in that situation - my husband and I complement each other well - but it could definitely strike a chord with many women.
About the author:
Middleton has been a Modern Love coach since 2010. Danish by birth, she
holds a M. Sc. in Economics and has worked extensively around the
world. She worked for several companies in sales and marketing until she
decided to become a coach. Pouline actually lived with the three-men
model for a period in her own life, but did meet 'the one' in 2013 and
is now happily married.